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Major (Ret) Perry Marks

Major (Ret) Perry Marks

Tuesday, November 13th, 1928 Saturday, August 3rd, 2019

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Obituary for Major (Ret) Perry Dean Marks Sr.

PERRY D. MARKS, SR.
Major (Ret) Perry Dean Marks, Sr., 90, of Kansas City, MO passed away on Sat., Aug. 3, 2019 at Brookdale Wornall Place in Kansas City, MO. The family will receive friends at the visitation from 10 to 11 am, and the Funeral Service will be at 11 am, on Thur., Aug. 8, at the Alden-Harrington Funeral Home in Bonner Springs, KS with burial to follow in the Leavenworth Veterans Administration National Cemetery in Leavenworth, KS. The family suggests memorial contributions to the Disabled American Veterans in care of the funeral home. Perry was born on Nov. 13, 1928 in Stanley, KS to Harold "Pappy" and Irene Marks. Perry was raised by his loving grandparents Dean and Goldie Marks. Perry married Betty Wearne in Sept. 1, 1952 in Watertown, NY, she preceded him in death, to this union three children were born Perry Dean, Jr. "Bud", Lynn Marie and Bruce Allen. He then married Marie "Sug" Lundy Dudley and she brought to this union three children John Eugene, Susan Marie and James Brian Dudley. He was a retired Army Major of over 20 years of service. He retired as a Captain for the Federal Protective Service. He enjoyed singing in Barber Shop Quartets and watching the wildlife around his home. He was preceded in death by his wife Marie "Sug" Marks and one son Perry Dean "Bud" Marks, Jr. And is survived by five children John Dudley of Kansas City; Susan Conoley of Topeka, KS; Lynn and Matt Boddington of Topeka, KS; Bruce and Elaine Marks of Towanda, PA and Jim and Leesa Dudley of Kansas City, MO. One brother Robert Marks of Phoenix, AZ. Nine grandchildren and nine great grandchildren and Perry's girlfriend Chris Hildebrandt

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  • Visitation

    Thursday, August 8th, 2019 | 10:00am - 11:00am
    Alden Harrington Funeral Home
    214 Oak Street
    BONNER SPRINGS, KS
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email |
    Thursday, August 8th, 2019
    10:00am - 11:00am
  • Service

    Thursday, August 8th, 2019 | 11:00am
    Alden Harrington Funeral Home
    214 Oak Street
    BONNER SPRINGS, KS
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email |
    Thursday, August 8th, 2019
    11:00am
  • Interment

    Leavenworth National VA Cemetery
    150 Muncie Road
    LEAVENWORTH, KS
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Dad was a Soldier.

I will mourn my loss, but these words are to celebrate a life well done. Dad was a soldier. This is obvious as he served 20 years in active duty, in his mind his officer’s commission was never retired, he was open to be called up, at any time. He had had so much training in the field, sometimes with only a knife and a handful of survival tricks, he literally, and seriously told me, that two wool blankets were deluxe accomodations outdoors. Let me illustrate how versed he was, once he took us camping. When trying to set up a camping hitch for a tarp, I offered to help (I had seen this knot in my older brother’s Boy Scout handbook, and thought I could do it.) He looked at me very puzzled, and said, “I’ve forgotten more about camping then you will ever know.” The comment stayed with me, and at the time,I thought it was a bit over the top. As I’ve gotten older, I now fully understand that he was, actually, absolutely correct. Further proof that he was a soldier’s solder, here is a short list of the training that I am aware of: Boot Camp, Infantry, Military Police, Honor Guard, Tanks, Immersion Interpretation in German, Sniper school, Sniper Instructor, Drill Instructor, Drill Instructor Trainer, Officer Candidate School, Airborne, Ranger, Jungle School, Green Beret Special Forces. He was a small firearms expert and served on the U. S. Army’s National Pistol Team. Served on three campaigns. So yes, indeed, he had forgotten more about ‘camping’ than I shall ever know. He also told me that he got very strong on serving after seeing how the Communists did things while serving his first time in Germany. He felt that they had to be countered. So, yes, my Dad was a indeed a soldier.
For Dad, freedom was not just an abstract idea, but really it was something that we all needed. And he was ready to fight for it, and to do this for others. I have been told, “No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” How then do we measure offering one’s life for others halfway around the world? He had served in other countries, quite a few times. My Dad was someone who combined great military bearing, love, kindness, and humility. I do not have the time to mark down all of the stories, but will focus on just a few. Soldiers do not just serve, they also come home, and remember the dear ones they love.
When he found himself a single father in the early 60’s, the rest of the family wanted him to send his three children to other family members. This was the accepted advice at the time. He loved his family enough to ignore this advice, and kept us together. This was not easy. We went through a good number of housekeepers. He wanted us all very much to get along and to stay together. I have seen him take the time to be kind to others. He once told me that we should take the time to send a card, to people in sickness or loss. He explained that the simple act of reading the letter, would at least take their minds off of their troubles . . . if even for a short while. As far as humility, when I asked him as a child, what he did the answer was, “I teach people”. He did not say I am Airborne, or I am an Airborne Ranger, or I am Special Forces, or a Drill Instructor, or any of the many others jobs he had or had been trained in. Just a simple, I teach people. This has always been a hallmark of the humble people I have met.
He also had a funny way of looking at things. When people complained, and it went on and on, he would say, “Well, no one is shooting at us.” When suggested to take break he would say, “I’ll tell you when I’m tired.” “No one is THAT OLD” (Said on just about every birthday.) And there was often an improv done at reading his own Birthday cards. He would often add, at the end, “you old Ratfink!”
I write this to celebrate a life well done. I celebrate someone who really offered his life in exchange for others freedom. I celebrate someone who led by example, who did his best, and who urged us all to do the same. Dad was a soldier’s solder, and his loss diminishes us all. His example still leads me to be my best.

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Lisa Iacovacci

Deepest sympathies Emily Gannon & family. Thinking of you & yours.
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